The temptation to cast one’s mentor into some saint is always so high that when one eventually comes in close contact with the flaws of said mentor, disappointment sets in.
I once found myself extremely disappointed in someone who I held as a role model because the image of a perfect human I had formed in my head of him was rudely punctured by the reality of his humanity. I was torn and our relationship never recovered from that disappointment. Of course, we never discussed it and it’s been decades. Meanwhile, said humanity had nothing to do with me: he was never inappropriate towards me or anything of sort. What happened was totally unrelated to me or any minor.
Every time I have looked back on that period, I regretted my naivety because I lost a whole lot from severing myself from that person. He could have been the quintessential godfather for me in life. I was disappointed because this person turned out to be who they never told me they were not! Such folly. I created an ideal human; got angry the real human was not 100% what I created in my tiny head; sanctimoniously gave gap.
It is why I always tell young people who chose me as their mentor to not ascribe to me what I have not told them I am. And if they come to know my flaws, they should realize it’s not their business. What should be of importance to them is how I can help them grow and become better.
Your mentor is human. Your duty is not to love your mentor in case you are telling yourself you can’t love them with their flaws. What you owe your mentor is respect and accountability. It’s small compared to what you owe yourself: AN OPEN MIND and WILLINGNESS TO LEARN.